Lebenslangerschicksalsschatz

Lebenslangerschicksalsschatz is not something that develops over time. It’s something that happens instantaneously. It causes swirling like the water of a river after a storm, filling you and emptying you all at once. You feel it throughout your body, in your hands, in your heart, in your stomach, in your skin. Have you ever felt this way about someone? If you have to think about it, you have not felt it. Everyone does eventually, you just never know when or where.

 

The Quiet World

The Quiet World

In an effort to get people to look
into each other’s eyes more,
and also to appease the mutes,
the government has decided
to allot each person exactly one hundred
and sixty-seven words, per day.

When the phone rings, I put it to my ear
without saying hello. In the restaurant
I point at chicken noodle soup.
I am adjusting well to the new way.

Late at night, I call my long distance lover,
proudly say I only used fifty-nine today.
I saved the rest for you.

When she doesn’t respond,
I know she’s used up all her words,
so I slowly whisper I love you
thirty-two and a third times.
After that, we just sit on the line
and listen to each other breathe.

Jeffrey McDaniel

 

What a poignant, surreal, trenchant poem! I shall append some music to this post! Irony 😛

Icona Pop - I Love It     

 

 

The Best of TED

Curated from http://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/top-20-ted-talk-improve-productivity.html

#1. Richard St. John: “Success is a continuous journey”

Richard St. John told us that the road to success is not a one-way street, it is a continuous journey. He shows his own business ups and downs to illustrate his key message. “When you stop trying, you fail.”

Richard St. John: “Success is a continuous journey”

#2. Eddie Obeng: Smart failure for a fast-changing world

The world is changing extremely rapidly at a speed that most people don’t realize. In this talk Eddie Obeng will show you how “smart failure” can help you to have better productivity in this fast changing era.

#3. Arianna Huffington: How to succeed? Get more sleep

Instead of reducing your sleeping time to get more done, Arianna Huffington urges us to shut our eyes and feel the power of a good night’s sleep – because it helps us to increase productivity and happiness.

#4. Paolo Cardini: Forget multitasking, Try Monotasking

People are trying to achieve more by doing everything at the same time. Thanks to the help of smartphones, they can text, talk, surf the internet and watch video simultaneously. Designer Paolo questions the effectiveness and efficiency of multitasking and makes a product to help you focus on “monotasking.”

#5. Ernesto Sirolli: Want to help someone? Shut up and listen!

Ernesto Sirolli suggests that the first step in helping others is to listen to them.

#6. Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are

Body language not only affects how other people see us, but it also changes how we see and understand ourselves. Amy Cuddy shows you how “power posing” can shape your confidence level.

#7. Margaret Heffernan: Dare to disagree

Most of us tend to avoid conflicts, but Margaret Heffernan disagrees with us. She shows us that a good disagreement is central to progress.

#8. Michael Norton: How to buy happiness

Michael Norton has intriguing research on how money can actually buy happiness. In his talk, he will show you how pro-social spending can be beneficial to you.

#9. Susan Cain: The power of introverts

We are living in a world where being social and outgoing are prized. Being introvert can be difficult and shameful. In Susan Cain’s talk, she shows you how introverts can be extraordinary talents and bring unique abilities to the world.

#10. Shawn Achor: The happy secret to better work

Psychologist Shawn Achor believe that happiness inspires productivity.

#11. Sheena Iyengar: How to make choosing easier

We all love customized experiences and options but when we are faced with 1000 options, we freeze up. In Sheena Iyengar’s research, she shows us how businesses can improve the overall experience of choosing.

#12. Daniel Goldstein: The battle between your present and future self

Daniel Goldstein created a tool that helps us to imagine the consequences from our decisions and helps us to make smarter choices.

#13. Nigel Marsh: How to make work-life balance work

Nigel Marsh lays out a perfect day, balanced between work and life and provides great encouragement to help make it happen.

#14. Caroline Casey: Looking past limits

Caroline Casey shows us her extraordinary life and how we can move beyond the limits we think we have.

#15. Jason Fried: Why work doesn’t happen at work

Jason Fried wants to show us the fact that the office isn’t the best place to do it. He also offers 3 suggestions on how to improve your working productivity.

#16. Jeff Bezos: What matters more than your talents

Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos tell us that our character is reflected not in the gifts we’re endowed with at birth, but by our own choices we make in our life.

#17. Chip Conley: Measuring what makes life worthwhile

Chip Conley went in search of a business model based on his happiness after 2000. He learned that success comes from what you measure.

#18. Simon Sinek: How great leaders inspire action

Simon Sinek shows us a powerful, yet simple, model for inspirational leadership which can start with a golden circle and the killer question ”Why?”.

#19. Gary Vaynerchuk: Do what you love (no excuses!)

There are no excuses not to do what makes you feel good because the internet has made the formula for success much easier.

#20. Itay Talgam: Lead like the great conductors

Itay Talgam demonstrates unique leadership which is about creating perfect harmony without saying a single word.

#Bonus. Steve Jobs: How to live before you die

An epic video of Steve Jobs that urges us to pursue our dreams and show us how to overcome obstacles in our life – including death. If you haven’t watched this video yet, here’s the chance.

20 Good Habits You Need To Start In Your 20s

Our 20′s are the most pivotal points in our lives. This is the time in which we become responsible for how our future will unfold, due to the important actions and decisions that make up this exciting yet confusing stage.

This is when we mold the direction our lives will take, and the way we will handle all of the obstacles that stand in front of us completing the journey we have chosen to embark on.

The 20s brings upon a lot of questions, doubtful moments and uncertainty. It is maybe one of the hardest points in a person’s life because that is the first time we truly face ourselves in the mirror seriously and ask what the hell are we going to do with our life and how are we going to do it.

This is a scary concept for many of us, as throughout the first 22 years of our lives we are used to being in school and having our parents’ help us get anything we wanted or truly needed. It is truly the first time we are considered independent adults and the decisions we make during this period will rest with us forever.

Here are the 20 best habits that we feel everyone should have in their 20s to make the most out of this stage in life by crafting a valuable and fruitful future. Enjoy.

 

20. Focus on the activities and people that make you happy.

This isn’t high school anymore, where we have to please people just to be considered cool and fit in. This is the real world and in the real world all you have to worry about is yourself and not what others think about you. Do what you feel will help you attain the life you wish to have, be around the people you truly enjoy hanging out with and engage in what makes you feel most fulfilled.

19. Trust your instincts on new opportunities.

Opportunities are never given, they are taken. Stop waiting for handouts in life and go out there and get what you want. Trust your instincts because if it doesn’t feel right inside it wont feel right for you as time goes by. Trust that little voice in your head and do what you feel is most beneficial for your well being and satisfaction.

18. Build the courage to face your fears.

If you haven’t already noticed, the real world is filled with a lot of intimidating phases you must participate in to grow up. Don’t ever hesitate to give yourself a chance to be everything you are capable of being. What brings out the best version of yourself is the act of standing up to what scares you most.

The only person telling you to be afraid of these things is you. Engage in discomforting activities that you know will make you a stronger, more courageous person afterwards because they will never fail to do so.

17. Focus on the resources you do have access to.

We have witnessed so many people sit there and complain that they can’t get where they want to be in life because they don’t have the necessary resources to assume control. It’s time to stop being a cry baby about this sort of thing. You wont be given any handouts so be ready to work hard.

Life is about making something out of nothing what makes you so special that you would be awarded a head start? Focus on the opportunities you DO have, and exploit the resources you DO have access to.

16. Be less busy, and more productive.

Being busy is a good thing but managing your time is more important. You are not superman and you can’t do 100 things at once. Many people make the mistake of spreading themselves too thin and thus losing control of the opportunities they can no longer take full advantage of.

It’s easy to be busy but you need to be productive and effective as well. Focus on the tasks that your life will benefit most from. Get the necessary things done, the things in which you will be most at peace with yourself upon completion.

15. Make your goals a priority. 

If you make a goal, you better stick by it because there wont be anyone to push you to do so. You will eventually learn that the direction your life takes is based on how you act on accomplishing your goals. Stay focused on your ambitions. Tomorrow may never come, so start today instead.

14. Accept your humanness. 

Own up to your mistakes, admit you are only human and understand that your 20s are a learning curve. You will screw up, it will hurt, but it is the only way you will learn how to take the next step most effectively. Take in all the answers to the tests you receive after approaching something the wrong way or simply being careless.

13. Seek less approval from others.

You are going to learn a cold hard lesson that many people that you think care about you might actually be haters and users. Stop seeking approval from people and stop worrying about what other people think about you. Be proud of who you are and don’t let the opinions of the those who wish they had your courage bring you down. Remember, a lion does not worry himself over the opinions of the sheep.

12. Ignore society’s comparisons.

It will never help you to compare yourself to other people and believe that you will never amount to their success. Stop renting an identity, be you and live your life without comparing it to someone else’s. You are far more nuanced than anyone else’s narrative you try to fit yourself into, and more complex than society’s story of what ‘should’ be happening in your life.

11. Believe in your ability to succeed.

Fate and self belief are the two biggest factors of succeeding in this world. Unless you believe that what you are after is in fact possible to attain, you won’t get anywhere. You need to always maintain a belief in your own ability to succeed, doubting yourself will only distract you from the steps you should be taking to get closer to your dream.

10. Manage your money before it starts to manage you.

We live in one of the greatest recessions known to mankind, there are not many jobs out there and the entire world is about to simultaneously file for bankruptcy. Spend your money wisely and don’t spend above your means. The last thing you want to do is be living pay check to pay with so much uncertainty as to whether or not you will survive on your own.

9. Let the wrong people go.

You are going to come across many different types of people in life, so you don’t have to be everyone’s friend. You will come to realize who your true friends are, supporting you through thick and thin. You will also, however, encounter a fair amount of poisonous individuals that will try to hold you back from getting what you want for their own benefit.

Cut them off and don’t let them intrude and ruin your life. You can’t make everyone happy in this world, so don’t bother trying. Don’t be so quick to lend out your trust.

8. Appreciate your true friends, and return the favor.

You true friends are the ones that you can call during any time of the day and will be there to help you no matter what. Return the favor of being a good friend and don’t ever forget where you came from. Friendship is what will keep you humble throughout your journey, and as long as you continue to show appreciation for the love you are given, it will only come back in larger doses.

7. Understand right from wrong

This isn’t college anymore, it is time to grow up and take responsibility for your actions. There is a right time and place for everything and by now you should know what will help you in the long run and what is simply a waste of time. It’s okay to have fun, but not during a time when you know you could be working harder to accomplish your goals.

6. Choose happiness. 

Happiness is a choice that varies in substance for many people, so you need to create your own kind of happiness that you find most fulfilling or stimulating. There is nothing you need in order to be happy other than the choice to do so. Let go of the worries you have for what may or may not come your way. Focus instead on the good things that you can give, create, inspire and choose to experience, right here, right now.

5. Learn to cope with anger effectively.

Your 20s are an emotional rollercoaster of confusion and enlightenment. You will feel a significant amount of emotional stress and you need to understand how to control it so it only helps you dominate your 20′s with efficiency and pride.

When you begin to let your emotions start controlling you and your decisions is when you are destined to fall off a cliff. Unless they force you to work harder or more passionately, ignore the bad emotions and let the good one’s carry you to new intellectual heights.

4. Make your own destiny. 

If you want to be successful then you need to create the life that is most deserving of such pleasures and reward. Don’t just sit there and talk the talk. You need to learn how to walk the walk and stick by your word. You have the power to make your own destiny and that starts with the decisions you make and the actions you take to become worthy of success.

3. Create priorities.

Priorities will help you understand what is important in creating the life you wish to have and what is only stopping you from being the best version of yourself imaginable. Life is going to offer many distractions that will attempt to throw you off course from your goal.

It is ultimately up to you to stay disciplined at all times and understand how to spend your time and energy in accordance to your own well being. Don’t waste your time on social media or being a club rat. These things won’t make you a more intelligent person with a better grasp on how to handle life’s important choices.

2. Stay away from a routine based life.

Don’t turn into a pedestrian by settling for the first thing that life gives you. Security and stability may seem less harmful at first but they prevent you from experiencing the greatest adventures and rewards this world could possibly offer. You will be presented with a lifestyle that appears comfortable, doing the same things each day with little or no excitement or mental growth involved.

This is why you need to remember that to take advantage of the wondrous opportunities life has in store for you, you must get comfortable with the uncomfortable and choose the road that is most interesting, regardless of how complicated or unnerving it may be.

1. Always keep in mind that life is somewhat unpredictable.

Some of the great moments in your life won’t necessarily be the things you do; they’ll be things that happen to you. That doesn’t mean you can’t take action to affect the outcome.. You have to take action, and you will. But don’t forget that on any day, you can step out the front door and your whole life can change in an instant – for better or worse.

To an extent, the universe has a plan that’s always in motion. A butterfly flaps its wings and it starts to rain – it’s a scary thought, but it’s part of life’s cycle. All these little parts of the machine, constantly working – sometimes forcing you to struggle, and sometimes making sure you end up exactly in the right place at the right time.

An OKCupid Date

Boy, am I really bad at this.

So it was April Fools’ and I received a bland message on OKCupid that is Hello (: After reading her profile, I thought that we might click and promptly forgave her so not well-thought-out message. I guess you can say she got me at Hello.

Long story short, we met at 7,30 at CWP Macs with me acting like a total dork, blaming the bright spotlight above me for my inability to carry a conversation. LOL. After some incoherent gestures, I sort of calmed down but was still jittery and loathe to open up. Worse, a miscom meant that we were supposed to catch the 7,40 movie instead of the 9,40 one but I was late. I really spent 25 min gulfing down my food, bathing and changing. Sucks ttm and bad impression. :

The headache part is the 1.5 hours waiting time while waiting for the movie. We dawdled around the mall before heading to Starbucks and chatting cordially.

Warm Bodies was a pretty funny, feel-good zombie rom-com and the actor playing R is drop-dead gorgeous haha. Both of us had a sudden revelation that R = Rome(o) and Julie = Juliet lol. Score. And I remembered she likes salty popcorn. Score again.

The movie ended around 11.10 and I walked her to her house and almost wanted to come in her house. Luckily I didn’t cos her mum came in 5 minutes later and an encounter with her would make for awkward conversation with both daughter and stranger.

Let’s hope today I can somehow carry myself better on my second date! ><